We’ve all felt it…in one way or another…that feeling of being unwanted. Of being denied our own value…our own personhood. When another person’s opinion of us defined our worth.
Picked last for the team…
Shunned from the established clique…
Forgotten on a birthday…
But what about those whose very being, their very self is denied?
The child about to age out of foster care because no family wants them enough to be a forever home.
The spouse cheated on and abandoned through divorce.
The baby considered not even “human”, chopped and vacuumed for the sake of “choice”, obviously not theirs.
The elderly sitting lonely surrounded by white walls, without visitors, forgotten.
We only have our personhood because of the “wanting” of another. This…this is true. But, we’ve lost sight of who “another” is. It’s not merely another human. He’s much more than that. His love is so deep and so profound that He reached across hopelessness and despair to find you. His “wanting” never lacks, never fails. In fact, your heart only beats because He wants you in His family, forever.
He picks you first. His arms are open, welcoming. He remembers your birthday every time because He set it on the calendar in the first place. He is your forever family. He is your faithful spouse. He treasures and receives every child as His own. He sees the wise sitting in halls and dances over them in love. He invites…always invites.
“In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him.” 1 John 4:9
Who you are matters. Even if the entire world rejects you, there is One who never will. He didn’t come to set us straight and make us into perfectly behaving little robots. He came to take our death and replace it with His life. He came to be the Source we can always trust in, which will never run out, Who will never fail.
He loves you. He loves YOU. That is all. That is all that matters. That is all that lasts.
“Man does not know its worth, and it is not found in the land of the living.” http://bible.us/59/job.28.13.esv
At every job I have had and at my current employer, there are a lot of people who compare their salaries and their wages to others around them. they get frustrated if their wages do not compare to those they work with.
I am sure in this day of reality TV if you haven’t seen or heard this attitude at your own job site, you have heard of talk like this somewhere. “I can’t believe he makes that or she makes that and I only make this and I do more than they do, or I have a higher education. You yourself may have even said those words, I know at one point I have and I still momentarily struggle when Satan tries to tell me those lies, that my net worth is how much I am worth or that others don’t see my value because there is someone else at the company who makes more than I do.
Please let me give you something to think about, what is the heart behind that thought? Is it that they or I or you entitled to a higher wage or are owed that because of something that they’ve done or maybe something they have achieved? Or is it because they find their value in the wages they make and when this person makes less than someone else the feel that they are, in the eyes of their employer at least, a lesser person.
This is where a very popular scripture comes into play. It is normally used to tell others of how to come to into a relationship with God, but it also sets a value, a worth, a measurement of how important we are in a world that tells us otherwise.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.” http://bible.us/59/jhn.3.16-17.esv
God loves us so much, and He doesn’t want to condemn or tear us down He sent His own spiritually and heavenly Son to live on the earth, going what we go through and then some to save us, to free us, to even out the balance sheet of our net worth. He did that because we are valuable not only to Him but each other and we need to go to Him to find out how much we are worth.
I hope and pray that you find freedom through Christ to release you of the bondage that Satan attempts to keep you in. Remember the bondage Satan tries to hinder you with is a lame attempt at holding on to a war he has already lost. Are you going to let him keep you from being free, from achieving everything our incredible Lord and Savior created you to be. I pray bondage be broken from you and freedom be released in you in Jesus Name.
In Genesis 17:20-21, God is discussing His covenant with Abraham. Around this part of the story He is informing Abraham that he will have a son from Sarah. We know the story that he laughs at God and God tells him to ironically name his son laughter or Isaac.
What I very seldom hear about is, Abrahams prayer for Ishmael. He asks to keep Ishmael growing strong, to bless him and although God does so, He even adds to that, “Ishmael will be the father to 12 princes and he will be made a great nation, but.”
And here is where the value comes in, here is where the difference between blessed and blessed under a covenant comes in. “But I will make my covenant with Isaac and Sarah”, he will bless the child from the marriage covenant with His own covenant.
The but is huge here, it always negates the previous portion of a thought or statement. Have you ever heard, “great job, but” or “that sounds great, but.” In this case God says how great Ishmael’s nation will be but, it won’t be anything compared to a covenant with The Father.
What nation are you building without the covenant of Christ covering it?
What is the Holy Spirit saying to you?
With the new Expendables 2 movie out, I felt God prompting me tonight to ask the question, “Are you expendable?” Do you feel used, abused, worthless, unappreciated, helpless, hopeless, devalued, unloved, exposed, fearful, derailed from your purpose? This could be at work, at home, at church, with your friends and family, or with your so-called friends and family. Oops did that slip out?
Now I don’t claim to have seen nor can guarantee that I will ever see either Expendables or Expendables 2, but I have seen hundreds, if not thousands, of people who Satan has tried to disarm by calling them so. He has whispered things like, “You’re gonna be fired today”, “You better work late to show your boss how valuable you are”, “You’re stuck at the bottom and will never move up the ladder”, “All you will ever be is a diaper changing, dish washing, laundering cook and you’re not even good at that.”
I think you see the pattern, but what God gave me tonight is that there are other jobs if you get fired, time with your family and God is much more important than impressing your boss, the bottom rung isn’t a bad place (Jesus washed the feet of the disciples and didn’t complain) maybe He’s got you there for a reason, and think about those diapers (I’m not sure whether Jesus wore Pampers or Huggies, but Mary had to change them).
Your value is not based on the position you hold, the garbage you have to deal with, the people under you, the money you make (or don’t make), the debt you are in, the size of your retirement account, the house or car you have. Your value as a person is so great or that God would trade His Son for you. All you have to do is accept that.
God created us to be incredible, not expendable.
His desire is that we blossom within His love, developing, growing closer to Him, becoming more like Him. This is a process and He gives us a little at a time to let us grow into the person and child He has created and designed us to be, we must be patient.
We are not expendable, we are not unloved. We are children of the Most High, Creator of all, saved by the blood of Jesus. Valued as such, we are more than conquerors and no one can take that away from us.
“Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword? As it is written, “For your sake we are being killed all the day long; we are regarded as sheep to be slaughtered.” No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Romans 8:35-39 ESV